There are many things I can tolerate, (it may not seem like it because of my rants) but there are a few things that really push my buttons. Hate speech, attacks on my integrity or those of people I love, lies, peas, cauliflower, disrespect and bullies! You may be asking yourself: “This is a makeup, beauty and all things pretty blog, why are you dedicating a whole blog post to this?” Well, because we live in an age where we are constantly on social media, at the mercy of bullies. I want my readers to feel good and pretty on the inside too. Life is more than makeup . . .
NB: I have blocked out the names of the people who were responsible for these comments. I didn’t have to, i did it out of respect although they made these statements on a public domain.
So, I recently started uploading once a week on my YouTube channel. I have about 15 videos up and only 222 subscribers. It’s a small channel.
I did a video and two viewers had an issue with my lighting. I am fine with constructive criticism; you can even call me ugly or say you hate my make up application . . . but this went further . . . I’ll get into that in another post, perhaps.
On the first lighting issue, I replied in a civil manner. The other commenter took it further to say I was setting a bad example to young girls . . . this was an attack on my integrity, still I maintained a civil but snippy approach in my response.
But it went further . . . one of them took it to Beauty Bugle’s Facebook page where the subject was elaborated upon and it was getting out of control!
This is when I deleted both comments from my Facebook page and my YouTube and blocked these individuals.
You may think, ‘Prativa, you put yourself out there and open yourself to criticism, what do you expect?’ I accept that . . . but bullying and trolling? HELL NO! I’m not down with that Sh%&$T SHOW!
It takes one comment to start a negative thread of comments that can get out of hand fast!
So I clapped back and SHUT IT DOWN! The point of this: Do not tolerate cyber bullying or bullying in general! SHUT IT DOWN! You cannot change the world but you can change your own show. By not taking action, you are sending a message that the behaviour is okay. Remember, you have a delete and block button. I am strong enough to CLAP BACK and SHUT IT DOWN, but many people aren’t.
(WARNING: These are heart-wrenching and disturbing videos. Watch at your own discretion) Teenagers have killed themselves because of bullying. Recently a 13-year-old boy Danny Fitzpatrick hanged himself after years of bullying. He left a chilling note ‘ I GAVE UP’. There’s the story of Amanda Todd, who killed herself after making a chilling video on YouTube, before committing suicide because of cyber bullying.
I’m a grown woman and I will clap back because of my allergic reaction to bulls%$%t, but I know of many adults, who are still bullied and some have been deeply affected by the bullying in their childhood. It has manifested into so many problems in their adult lives. Adults are bullied in the workplace, by family members and even ‘friends’. This often leads to depression, low self-esteem and gives rise to social anxiety. This means a human being is not allowed to live their best life.
This is WRONG . . . again I say SHUT IT DOWN!
When some one says something nasty, 90% of the time it’s more about them than you. Imagine putting all that time and energy to spread hate about someone you don’t know?
My late mum used to say: “The ugliness of speech is the character behind it, keep your words soft and sweet because you never know when you have to eat them and most importantly, if you have nothing good to say, say nothing.”
And of course Madea always has great advice! I know this Miss Madea, but I will clap back . . . then sip my tea . . .
What actions, if any, are you going to take against cyber bullies or bullies in general? Should one may it no mind and brush it off as ‘it is what it is’ or clap back? You know my answer . . .
Let me know your thoughts, down below
Until next time,
Stay blessed and beautiful,
Remember, you are loved always